by Jen
(grand island)
So after getting home last night and not saying where he had been….I asked. That lead to him flipping the couch I was lying down on watching tv. I came to find out he was out drinking. The night before when he left he did not saying where he was going…met the same friend at another bar.
The last time we went out as a family was to a football game – after 3 hrs when it was time to leave he couldn’t talk and could hardly keep a walking pace faster that a 2 yr old.
Or how about when his cousin invited us to go tubing in a town about 45 min away. He had to keep chugging beers and after he was out he drank other peoples. That same night at his uncles house he drank half of a 1.75 liter of Pendleton whisky mixed with a small amount of coke. He fell asleep in my new terrain (SUV) before we were out of town. Right after we pulled into our driveway he threw up in my new car.
He tells me that he does NOT have a drinking problem. But then smacks me on the ass and tells me that I should work out a little harder. I am 5 ft 8 and weigh 139. I think my body is beautiful.
Its hard. I miss the man that i feel in love with. I want out of this. Also he has had surgery on his elbow about 3 weeks ago. So instead of getting addicted to pain pills he says he drinks to make the pain go away. Also he can’t help with anything around the house but he can drive to the bar, drink for hours and is then capable of driving home.
It broke my heart when I heard my nephew tell my best friend that he is mean to me. That he doesn’t come across that he loves me.
I am a Mental Health Counselor who is licensed in both New York (LMHC) and North Carolina (LCMHC). I have been working in the Mental Health field since 2015. I have worked in a residential setting, an outpatient program and an inpatient addictions program. I began working in Long Island, NY and then in Guelph, Ontario after moving to Canada. I have since settled in North Carolina. I have experience working with various stages of addiction, depression, anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, stages of life concerns and relationship concerns.
I tend to use a person-centered approach which simply means that I meet you where you are and work collaboratively to help you identify and work towards accomplishing goals. I will often pull from CBT when appropriate. I do encourage use of mindfulness and meditation and practice these skills in my own life. I believe in treating everyone with respect, sensitivity and compassion.
I recognize that reaching out for help is hard and commend you for taking the first step. We have professionals available who would be happy to help you move closer to reaching your goals related to your drinking concerns. You may reach these professionals by calling 877-322-2694.